They only dance with the men they like, just the ones that appeal to them selfishly. They don't dance with the ugly old beasts that are obnoxious to them! The poor men pay and pay and pay and buy their drinks just to get a few kind words and a few dances, while the women just laugh at them behind their backs because they know they're playing the men for suckers!
But we come there and I pay for their drinks and I offer you free of charge, and you give them love and affection and dances, and I give them you and free drinks, even to the ugliest and saddest and "most uncomely parts"! They probably at first keep trying to figure out what's up and what is in it for us! They're wondering what are we doing it for? Are we doing it for kicks, or because maybe I can't dance and you like it so much? But then you and I get out there and dance like mad and they know it's not that! Especially when we don't take any of them home with us, it shows we're not trying to get either customers for a prostitute or lovers for the wife of an old impotent husband whose wife needs it so bad that he's got to go out and get it for her!
But if they see that we really do it because we love them and are sorry for them and are trying to share with them and cheer them up, they just can't help but realise it is real love and it just amazes them! They can't get over it! Pretty soon you've got them all eating out of your hand, and they don't even want to dance with the other women because the others don't show them real affection and sympathetic love!
Those other women only do it for the pleasure they can get out of it, not for what they can give! But you go dance and are not even sometimes getting much pleasure out of it, perhaps even "grinning and bearing" it! But at the same time you try to give them a little show of affection, a little pat or peck of real affection and love and show them you care and are sympathetic and sorry for them. One kind word from you means more to most of those men than a selfish bed from some of those selfish old whores! I believe it!
The businessmen of the world do it all the time just to entertain customers! They put out a lot of money for drinks and even get girls for them. We're doing it to sell our product, too--the love of God--and it costs something! The Scripture I get on that is what the Lord said:
If you're going to entertain anybody with a feast and foot the bill, invite the poor, not the rich who can repay you commercially by buying your products and returning your favours, but the poor who can't repay you! (Read Luke 14:12-14 !) Not one of those waiters could ever pay me enough money for your love or to make it worth loaning them my little lover for them to use!
The Lord says, "Invite the poor, the lame, the halt, the blind and those who can't repay you, and then your Father in Heaven will repay you! So that's really what we're doing: Going down there and laying before those fellows a feast of fellowship and fun and even flesh, and we're charging them nothing for it. We're even paying for it all and just telling them we're doing it because God loves them!
But to go as far as kissing them on the mouth or deep kissing so that you can get their germs and everything, that's a pretty big sacrifice! You better be ready to be crucified or nailed, and they'd have to be pretty big fish to be worth that much so that you'd have to use that expensive a lure! You know, they call certain kinds of bait "lures" in fishing! They'd have to be pretty important for you to go that far with them, to give them your deep kisses or even go all the way! They'd have to have a pretty great need that the Lord would want you to satisfy, to show them His love, for you to go that far!
(Maria: But don't you think it's tantalising them and teasing them to just go so far and no further?) No, sex isn't everything! Just getting their pole in the hole isn't everything!--That's just a mere physical mechanical consummation, the last and in some ways almost the least as far as real spiritual love is concerned.
I think it's the real spiritual love and affection that really counts the most: The real love that you show them, the concerned and loving words you say, the affectionate comfort of holding you in their arms and simply feeling you dear and close to them, to feel that somebody really loves them and cares about them. I think that even has a greater and more satisfying and more lasting spiritual value than the mere final physical mechanical consummation of total sex!
There were a lot of times in the world when I would pick up a girl not necessarily because I needed to make love to her sexually all that much, although I often did in the long run, but just for companionship! Sometimes I did it as much or even more for her sake than even mine, because after talking to her for so long she felt so much love that she wanted to make love and I wanted to make her happy, and those girls usually think they haven't really done their job or earned their salt until they've gone all the way!
But I would really honestly say that I think most of the time when I picked up a woman it was more for companionship and just to have someone to talk to, to relieve the loneliness. These guys appreciate your invitation to just sit down at your table and chat more than dancing--with both of us in fact! Some of them even forget about the music and dancing while they're enjoying talking to us so much!
So they're really hungriest for fellowship and companionship and real love and sympathy, just somebody to talk to, to relieve their loneliness and to feel like somebody really cares and shares their misery and their needs and problems. I think that really means more to most of them than to be able to finally carry you off to bed and mechanically make love to you! (Maria: The old men particularly crave fellowship and companionship even more than sex. The young men are usually raring to go, but even many of them seem to prefer or need just companionship and a few kind words and a little chat more than dashing off the bed!)
I had to ask the Lord, "Is this worth it?--Are these guys really worth it?"--And about that time I saw that sad-eyed Filipino, Tony, sitting there all alone like he'd lost his best friend! You actually had to go ask him for a dance before he could really believe anybody cared! (Maria: That was my reward!--I never saw anybody look so surprised and happy and almost amazed that I would ask him!) Some of these boys have been so cheerful and happy ever since you gave them such love!--It's contagious!
We've shown the world every other kind of love, and the world knows we try to help them and meet their needs. We've given them shelter and food and clothing. We've given them training, truth and triumph! Now we're even going so far as to give them other forms of physical love, even sexual love, to minister to one of their final and greatest natural needs!
(Maria: We often think the younger potent ones are the ones that need it the most and are the greatest potential, and we've somewhat neglected the older ones. Whereas, who knows?--Some of these old men may be our best friends in time of need!) We've sought the help of kings and been willing to show them a little love, but what about the poor labourer? He needs love as much as anybody, maybe even more than the kings!--And who knows but what when the trouble comes maybe even they may be able to return the favour some day, although that's certainly not what we're doing it for!
It's just like that picture I got about the little girl showing kindness to the animals, then they took care of her when she was lost in the forest! Then when she even loved and kissed the ugliest of all, it turned into her prince charming and all the others into his men, although that wasn't really what she did it for. She did it out of pure unselfish love and pity. But in turn, when she needed them, there they were! So who knows what God may do and how the Lord may use them when we need a friend?
We could have "entertained angels unawares"! (Hebrews 13:2) "Cast thy bread upon the waters and some day it will return!" (Ecclesiastes 11:1)
(Maria: we often go a lot by outward appearance rather than by real value or need: Just because someone comes in with a suit coat and tie we're inclined to give them special preference, for they're a little more attractive to dance with.--"They're more appealing!" When really they're often the same kind of people and don't even sometimes have as great a need, because it is easier for them to get dances. Because "man looketh on the outward appearance.")
I sat there thinking how wonderful it is: It's so easy for us to make someone happy! There was that poor lonely sad-looking man looking like he'd lost his last friend and on the verge of tears, and all I had to do was give you the signal to make him happy! After the dance he was so radiant and happy! He was figuring if a miracle like that could happen, other miracles could, too!--Like his getting a ride home at three o'clock in the morning, a 20-mile drive!--And he did!
Knowing that you're loved even gives you hope and faith for other things, too! It cheers up you whole outlook! That's one of the wonderful things about God's love: When we know that God loves us, we know everything is going to be OK, including His taking care of everything! When these men feel your love and you tell them it's God's love, they kind of feel like "maybe somebody up there does love me!--Maybe everything is going to turn out OK in the end after all!"
So showing a little real love really goes a long, long way. It not only encourages them for the present, but gives them a brighter outlook on the future. When I saw how much it meant to each of them and yet how little it cost us, I thought, "How could we refuse!" Besides, it's good exercise for you, keeps you in good shape and you enjoy it most of the time.
But most of all it's a tremendous blessing and a great encouragement to them, and it inspires their faith to feel that you love them and really care whether they're happy or unhappy, that someone is actually concerned about them and their feelings and their happiness! It is such a small easy way to show it by just a smile or a few kind words about the Lord's love, or a few dances and a few affectionate pats or pecks and occasionally even more!
What "Prince Charmings" you've turned some of these "beasts" into with just a little "beauty" of love and affection! They come in looking so sad and lonely and downhearted, dragging their weary feet after a long hard day's work, wondering if anybody cares, wondering if anybody might show them a little pity. But then they get so happy and feel so free and are laughing and dancing when you show them just a little love, a little concern and at least enough pity to dance with them a little while!
It changes their whole outlook and gives them a real uplook when you're finished with them! We've found we can turn nearly every "beast" into a "prince charming" with just a little "Beauty" of love!--And who knows?--They may save us from being lost in the forest some day!--Amen?
All they need is love!--Are you one of the Lord's lovers?--Have fun!--I was one of the worst of all the beasts, but Maria's love and faith turned me into your "Prince Charming"!--Try it!--You'll love it! Read I Corinthians 13: "The greatest of these is love", and "love covereth a multitude of sins"! Try giving the "Beauty" of God's love to some "Beast" today and see if he won't turn into a "Prince Charming"!
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